Talk about erectile dysfunction. A problem shared is a problem halved and if that problem is your partner’s erectile dysfunction, talking could make a big difference..
As close as you may be to your partner, it's quite likely there are some subjects that will always be difficult to discuss. His erection, or lack of erection, may be one of them.
Talking openly and honestly will help you both to find a solution. If you're worried about embarrassing or upsetting him, you probably are finding it hard to start the conversation - and chances are, he is too…
Why won't he talk about his erection problems?
Sexuality is part of all people's identity – a part of who we are – and if his erection is failing him, his self-confidence is likely to suffer.
He may be frustrated, embarrassed, angry, depressed or upset that he's not being all he thinks he should be in the bedroom.
It can be particularly hard for men. Male bravado doesn't tend to allow for perceived 'weaknesses' like erectile dysfunction, so without being able to share it with his friends, he may be feeling isolated and lonely.
These are all difficult emotions to come to terms with and even harder to put into words. In fact, it may seem too hard for him to try.
Whatever you do, it's a good idea not to blame yourself – or him. You may be feeling insecure yourself. You may be scared that he doesn't find you attractive – or even love you anymore. On the other side, he may believe that if he admits to his problems, you'll think him less of a man and may even reject him. This leaves you both feeling confused, upset and often silent.
